"We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed." 2 Corinthians 4:8-9
When we experience abuse, it is natural to lash out at someone whether the abuser, another person, or God. Here are some suggestions for surviving an abusive situation and finding wholeness.
Do not blame God. God never instigates any kind of abuse. To do so would be totally opposite of everything He says. God tells us to love, serve, and encourage each other.
"You, my brothers, were called to be free. But do not use your freedom to indulge the sinful nature; rather, serve one another in love." Galatians 5:13
If you are going to blame somebody, blame the Devil because ultimately, he is the one behind all abuse.
"For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." Ephesians 6:12
Forgive the abuser and anyone who allowed the abuse. This is difficult, and even harder to understand the pain of each situation. But the point is: harboring anger, resentment, and bitterness leaves us empty. An unforgiving spirit is worse than a cancer on the inside. Jesus went to the cross for every single sin any of us could possibly commit. The Lord is ultimately aware of the power of forgiveness, the releasing of hurts in our lives.
Choose the truth about yourself. You may have heard awful words aimed at you, but God knows those things are not true. The best way to find out the truth is to read the Bible. If you go through the New Testament and write down all the things that God says about you, I guarantee that you'll be standing on your tiptoes with your hands straight up into the sky praising Him and thanking Him for loving you the way He does.